‘I can’t orgasm when I masturbate in front of my husband!’ what to do?
Do you know that many women find it hard to achieve orgasm at all or in some particular situations, such as in front of their own partner? If you also fall under the list of such women, then this article is just for you!
Performance anxiety
Some women feel conscious in touching themselves in front of a partner in same way that they enjoy touching themselves while they are alone. Sometimes, people do not feel comfortable at doing things in front of their partner that helps them to feel most aroused when they are alone, such as talking dirty, using sex toy or watching porn.
The way you make me feel
Check out how your feelings about masturbation, sex and self-pleasuring changes when you are with your partner or when you are alone. Worried how your partner will react to your masturbation techniques? Do you suffer from body image concerns? Do you also think often about how he might feel about your look or sound you might make while self-pleasuring?
Remember that sex is an activity full of sights, scents and sounds. These characteristics of sex greatly enhance sexual arousal in a person but at times influence people’s worries too.
Learn more about yourself
Even if you are orgasmic on your own, you can still read ‘Becoming Orgasmic’, which provides step by step procedure helping women to learn achieve orgasm alone or with partner. Most of the exercises mentioned in this include woman’s partner. You can try these exercises with your partner to make the activity more exciting and pleasurable. Trying these new activities will help you to learn about each other’s bodies and what works and doesn’t.
You can also try watching porn together and make your sex more pleasurable just like many couples do in their life.
At the end, always remember that woman’s experiences of orgasm and pleasure keeps changing throughout their life such as in times of menopause, birth, stress, pregnancy, health conditions and aging. Learning to talk about sexuality and how to make sex feel better for both of you will help you in leading an exciting and satisfied sex life. Also, it would be better to consult your sexual medicine consultant if you are unable to sort it out yourself.
